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Don’t Say This to Granny
Being honest is a good thing. But brutally honest to the elder can put us into trouble too, Supermom. Older people are most sensitive with comments of their relationship with their grandchildren. Fran Walfish PsyD, the author of “The Self-Aware Parent”, laid out just what may have potentials to hurt grandma and grandpa. Just keep it to ourself, will ya.
“Hopely your kid appreciate what you do for them.”
It may just be sweet mouthing, but the impact can be deep and piercing. In a way, they are preferred rather than babysitter to watch over their grandchildren while parents are away. W ell… only because there’s no one else, no one would or –most likely- for free.
“Ough your grandkid is a real loose cannon!”
It sounds like you are saying that they (and their son/daughter) fail in educating the little ones. It could also be a sarcasm, saying; anyone can do better. Granny will resent the words.
“Enjoy it now because your grandkids are not be with you when they are teenagers.”
According to some survey, human life span is in fact getting shorter; very few reach over 100 years. But hey, who can tell other than God who creates things? The phrase can come between granny and their happiness with their grandkids. If we want to remind them of being grateful, we may want to pick another way.
“Want to connect with Grandkids? Learn Facebook!”
Befriends with kids in Facebook is the most common up to date path to see the world through their eyes. Yet, it may not be the real them. Granny may be old fashion, untouched by technology. But surely experienced in recognize kids character without facebook.
“Have you done anything for yourself lately, or is your life focus on the little ones?”
The free translation may sound like “Get a life, Granny.” Just appreciate that they choose to put the kids before others. Gardening or watching grandchild’s soccer match? We sure know what their choice is.
“You are spoiling them!”
Granny’s job is to compromise rules when parents are away. Sure they can spoil them, as long as it’s still within the boundaries.
PHOTOS: THINKSTOCKS
